Are you hitting an upper limit?
Lately I’ve been brushing up against an upper limit.
And let me tell you… it hasn’t looked particularly “spiritual” or “graceful.”
It’s looked like self-doubt. Frustration. Mistrusting the process. Over-functioning. Slipping into old versions of myself just to feel a false sense of control.
Can you relate?
That moment when everything is technically going well…
And suddenly, you feel anxious. Irritated. Stuck. For me, I get reallly sad. I’m just like… I’m still here?!
This is what we call an upper limit—a term coined by Gay Hendricks in The Big Leap.
It’s the point where your nervous system bumps up against how much joy, success or love it’s been conditioned to tolerate.
And when we hit that ceiling, our scared parts try to protect us by pulling us back into the familiar.
Why? Because somewhere along the way, we internalized the belief that safe = best.
But your Soul knows better.
Your Soul knows that to go where you’re going, you have to leave where you are.
You have to walk through the resistance. The discomfort. The fear.
Because discomfort isn’t always danger. Sometimes… it’s just expansion.
So if you’re in that space — stretching, shifting, feeling your capacity grow—you’re not doing it wrong.
You’re right on time.
Here are a few signs you might be hitting your own upper limit:
Self-doubt or fear—You start questioning if you’re worthy of the love, success or peace you’ve created.
Unexplained setbacks—Things feel like they’re going “wrong” at the exact moment everything was going right.
Procrastination—You delay the next steps that would move you closer to your dream.
Self-sabotage—You miss the opportunity. You cancel the meeting. You pick the fight.
Discomfort with success—You downplay, hide or minimize your glow-up.
Guilt—Especially if people around you are struggling, you might feel undeserving of your own joy.
These are all human. But they’re not the truth.
They’re just protective mechanisms from a past version of you.
So if you’re feeling the stretch—I invite you to reframe it: Not as “something’s wrong,” but as a sign that something is working.
You’re growing.
You’re rising.
You’re holding more.
Give yourself grace. Breathe through the resistance. And keep going.
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